Remembering Sandy

Only I could tell this part of Sandy and I wanted to honor her.

The pews of the church were filled with family, friends, fellow photographers, & clients. The platform and steps were completely covered with 42 gorgeous flower arrangements. Besides the floral arrangement from her parents and her husband, I placed the arrangements with hydrangeas the closest to her portrait as that was her favorite flower.

Her father, her brothers, her husband, her daughters, best friend’s son, and Pastors all spoke about how they had known Sandy at the memorial.

This is what I had to say.


25 years ago, We met in church and both were on the dance worship team. Our friendship was based on a strong foundation.

It was always God first, Family 2nd, and then our business.

15 yrs into our friendship, a few days before my Mother’s funeral, Sandy and I had a long conversation about Life and Death. Creating and “Living a Life we Loved” was the conception of our photography business.

2 months later, Sandy and Barb became “SandBar Photography” we opened for business May 2007.

SandBar is the life and the love that we created together. Love never dies and to honor her memory, Sandbar Photography will go on.

But she’s gonna have to learn how to be the Silent Partner. ☺

Somewhere around 1500 sessions in the past 10 years, not one argument!

We laughed and said that we worked together like hand and glove & Laurel and Hardy.

We’d pray for our sessions and the people. Our clients we loved like our own family. She was so considerate and always giving….. Last text was about buying a baby shower gift for a client.

I don’t remember Sandy ever saying anything unkind about anyone. She wasn’t a complainer, she had a calm presence and loved people for they are and where they were at. I will forever hear her voice saying: “That’s just who they are, Barb”

God gave the two of us one of the greatest gifts in life that you could have with another person other than your spouse. She was not only one of my closest friends & spiritual sister, but because of our business together we were able to travel the United States on many adventures. We laughed and always had so much fun. What a rare treasure to know and to love Sandy Rose!

One of Sandy’s favorite books was “Wishes Fulfilled” by Wayne Dyer. She read that book several times, it was probably the last book that she had in her hand. One her favorite sayings, and to quote Sandy: “Everything happens as it should …because it did”

The last day I saw Sandy was the day before my vacation, Thursday, July 20th we spent a full day at the studio doing what we love.

I believe that Nothing is a surprise to God. He knows the future before you step into it and he prepares you for the next season in your life.

24 hours later…..The next afternoon I was out in the Gulf in a boat and suddenly a storm came up – it got very dark and black. Before we knew it, we were surrounded by a pounding rain, with lightning popping. There were voices on the boat of panic and fear as the grandchildren cried for us to go back to shore. All the while my son in law, Torey, who is a boat Captain, was saying No we must wait it out, and important to be still. We were wet and cold huddled together, the captain of the boat pulled the bimini top down like a convertible to cover our backs and somewhat protect us as he stood with his hands at the wheel watching over us & the storm. As the boat rocked side to side, I remember being very concerned ,but somehow had a deep calm. I wondered if we were going to make it through. We were sitting ducks. I thought: This is it and I have no control over this situation.

*** And there are storms in life that we have NO control over…….

After what felt like an eternity the storm passed, & the skies cleared up enough to see the shoreline. We were about 10 Miles out as we began to make our way back to the boat ramp – The Lord spoke to my spirit and said: “There are many voices – when storms of life come, voices of fear and panic also come but there is only ONE voice. “ “It is the voice of the captain, the voice of the Lord your God to be still to wait till the storm passes , I’ve got your back covered and I am at the wheel gently watching over you,” I remember thinking wow that will preach and I am not even a preacher, who am I gonna tell this to?

****** A week later, suddenly another storm came, in the wee hours of the morning as I sat in the dark, on the couch, in unbelief, over Sandy’s passing. The voice of fear came….with the questions that we ask …. ‘why’ did this happen? I don’t understand What do we do next?

Once again I heard the Lord say to me “There’s only ONE voice to listen to your Captain.” Now you have the opportunity to walk out what you say that you believe.

I pay attention to numbers. We were 10 years in business together. We were 10 miles out from shore…. In scripture the number 10 means testing. Whether it is a test, a trial, or a storm….I know that God has got this.

My Mother was a seamstress and she would hold up her pieces of material she had sewn together and “test” the strength she would say.

Whether it is a test, a trial, or a storm….I know that God has got this.

God knows our beginning and ending. This is not the end. This is a new beginning for Sandy and for all of us.

As Sandy would say: “It is what it is & as it should be – because it was”

THIS IS THE VOICE OF YOUR CAPTAIN speaking…… Psalms 46:10: BE STILL and KNOW that I AM GOD.

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